So i’ve gone through a little 3 month bout of exploration. I know it’s been a while since I’ve last written but here’s the quickest update I can give (delivered to you by the magical powers of bullet points)
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I have “ended” and “continued” things with dickpic more than needs to be kept count. Tears a-plenty but at the end of the day, nothing has changed too much.
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I started seeing the male version of myself
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only to find myself frustrated by his inability to keep up with plans
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ended things with him
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started seeing a 29 year old, music-marketeer from the West Coast. From heretoforward, he shall be referred to as Jingle Man.
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met him the night i gave up on the male version of myself (still needs nickname)
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he’s ready to make things more serious but I’m not sure I’m there yet
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I’ve been to Spain and back (literally. it was very cool.)
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I’ve slept with Dickpic and a friend-of-a-friend, and made out with Narcissus (it’s the best i’ve got, stay tuned) since starting to see the Jingle Man
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Jingle Man has recently told me he loved me… maybe on the same night I got drinks with and subsequently made out with Narcissus.
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My March Madness Bracket is getting torn down hard but I somehow managed to win the pool – thanks uConn
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Jingle Man and I have had multiple conversations regarding our relationship status which I have declared does not exist further than being fun, having sex, and involving friendship. In my attempt to be honest and not hurt him I think I did the opposite, or maybe I just feel like a bad human being for doing this to anyone?
I suppose bullets can stop here.
I’m faced with a dilemma. I like Jingle Man a lot.
Yesterday he drove with me out to the beach where we walked along the windy coast. It was just us and it was kind of perfect. I found him funny and charming and his self-deprecation was down to an all-time low.
But by the end of the night it was back to him apologizing, asking me what’s wrong (even though I was honestly just tired) and peacing at 230 to go to sleep. I thought things were fine until he woke me up at 320 to tell me he was going back out.
Not great.
Aside from being bummed I’m not getting any orgasms this morning, I’m glad he went back out if that’s what he wanted and I’m thankful he took me home and made his own decision. But not sleeping next to him kind of sucked (even if he does snore like a bulldozer) and I can’t help but think I’m making the wrong decision.
And not to sound cliché or to pass my behavior off as excusable, but isn’t that what my twenties are for? Bad decisions?
As people who never really share the more intimate portions of my day-to-day, my mother’s only true response to me informing her I was “seeing someone”, aside from asking for more details, was that it was all good “so long as you’re having fun”. And she’s right. As we know: thanks to technology and medical advancements, we’re living longer so I have plenty of time to figure out who I want to settle with to make a life (her and my father didn’t meet until they were in their 30s, getting married within a year of introduction).
That’s enough for today – time to head out, put on my sunglasses [maybe also a little spf], and enjoy this beautiful day instead of fretting from my bed.
Here’s to the next post being more steamy